Parents & Family

When watching your Child have you noticed:

  • They have been looking anxious or depressed.
  • There are now school problems where there wasn’t before.
  • Something has changed in the home environment that’s creating a ripple affect.
  • Are you experiencing frequent parent-child conflict?
  • Is your child defiant, rebellious or argumentative?
  • Do you feel they don’t communicate important things to you?
  • Are they having difficulties connecting with others or feeling good about themselves?

 

Therapy Sessions can occur in several ways:

Client-Led Therapy

Independent client-led sessions which allow your child the trust, time and space to find their own way within a safe and supportive environment filled with different modalities and tools.

Many problems can arise when youth are out of touch with their emotional life, that is they lack an articulate awareness of their true feelings, needs and desires, and therefore surely their parents are not aware of them either! This can generate low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, poor school performance of parent conflict. Therefore, a major goal of Therapy will be helping your child to develop a conscious awareness of their emotional life including needs and desires, which are part of feelings. Using tracking and reflection I encourage youth to have great respect and awareness for their own feelings.   As this process is client-led your child can accomplish this through talk therapy alone, or through utilizing the additional modalities or tools within the space including play, art and sandtray.

Parenting Counselling

Independent Sessions as above, coupled with Parenting Counselling with the parent(s).
When I work with the parents, I don’t give so much direct advice, rather I help you to develop your own solutions to your child’s issues. I really believe in you, the parents. I feel that you possess the innate wisdom already within your mind to resolve the problem, I just help you bring those great ideas out and put them into practice. Often I use Open-ended Questioning, where I guide you towards developing your own unique solutions and realizations.

I have been working with youth for over 20 years, first in residential treatment and later as a counsellor. I can bring you information from my experience about what has and hasn’t worked in the past with others in order to illuminate the decisions you will make with your child.  Additionally I can provide information on their developmental stage, challenges, common blocks and helpful tools.

Family Communication Sessions

At times a three pronged approach is most beneficial which in addition to 1 & 2, adds Family Sessions to foster better communication between parent and child.

Often part of our plan will involve time with parent, child and therapist, to strategize how to resolve issues together. The most useful technique used here is in fostering communication between parents and children. It is amazing how many times parents have exclaimed, “Wow, so that is the reason you are acting this way, that is how you really feel, I didn’t know that!” In addition, the child is often made to realize that his parents’ behavior towards them, such as setting limits, is really all for their own benefit, and with this understanding they begin to resist and challenge less.

Over the years I have heard many youth say, “Yes, that’s exactly what I am feeling and what I mean, thank you for interpreting kid-speak into adult-speak!” Parents are often thrilled to understand exactly why their child is feeling misunderstood, and appreciate getting back on track!
I help your teen to get their feelings, thoughts, and point of view so clear that they are much better able to communicate it to their parents, and this itself resolves many issues.

But what if…..

I’m afraid my child will be unwilling to stay consistently in therapy…

At the beginning of the first session with your child, I explain to them that this is all about fulfilling their needs, how my entire job is to back them up and help them out; that I am entirely on their side. In addition, I let them know that they are the boss and they completely lead the course of the therapy. This usually gives them an exhilarating sense of empowerment, which gives them great pleasure and motivates them to continue to come to sessions. Because of my years of experience with youth, I know how to talk to them and how to establish a warm, open relationship. 

I’m afraid my partner will be unwilling or unable to come with us to Counselling…

Parenting Counselling as part of a Therapy Plan can still be very effective with only 1 parent attending. A family is a united system, and when even one element of the system makes changes the whole system improves! Often when the other partner sees benefits after a time, they may be inspired to attend as well. Never forget that you alone possess enough power to resolve your teen’s issues!

If you are ready to take your relationship with your teen to the next level, and would like guidance or treatment, or believe your teen would benefit from individual sessions, please call me for a complementary 20-minute consultation at (226) 230-3433.

I look forward to speaking with you!

Julia



275 10th Street
Hanover, ON N4N1P1

believe@justjulia.ca
(226) 230-3433

Got Questions?
Send a Message!